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When Infidelity sets in…

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in·fi·del·i·ty  

  • (n.) Unfaithfulness to the marriage vow or contract; violation of the marriage covenant by adultery.
  • (n.) Breach of trust; unfaithfulness to a charge, or to moral obligation; treachery; deceit; as, the infidelity of a servant.

For some reasons or another, INFIDELITY is always associated with MEN. Why? Is it because there are great number of men than women having an affair outside of their married life, or life with their partners and girlfriends. Or is it a common understanding and knowledge that MEN by nature are polygamous. Blame it on the society. But what really drives an individual to step out of the line and get himself/herself into this trap? Yes, I say trap as I believe any person has the ability to refuse or give it a green sign. I also believe that there is no such thing as UNINTENTIONAL CHEATING on his or her mate for that matter. It’s a big CRAP.

Well according to study, below are 12 common place situations that can lead to infidelity.

Trap #1 – Regular online communication an online “friend”

Regular e-mails, IM’s or chat room conversations with an online friend of the opposite sex can build strong emotional bonds that progress to emotional infidelity, which is the stepping stone to sexual infidelity.

Trap #2 – Drugs or Alcohol

Many people have succumbed to infidelity because they were under the influence of drugs or alcohol which impaired their judgment, and lowered their inhibitions.

Trap #3 – Flirting

Innocent flirting with someone of the opposite sex can get out of hand. Especially if one person finds the other sexually attractive.

Trap # 4 – Associating with others who are cheating on their mates.

Peer pressure can be very powerful. If there’s one lone “goody two shoes” among a group of a group of cheating friends, it won’t be long before that person is cheating too.

Trap #5 – Complaining about your marriage/ relationship or your mate.

This sends a message of availability, and can be misinterpreted that the complainer is open to having an affair. And the irony to this is, those partners who complaints a lot are those belong to the cheater group.

Trap #6 – Socializing with an opposite sex workmate.

Hanging out with an opposite sex workmate during non-business hours is just asking for trouble if unless your spouse or significant other is present, or you’re part of a group.

Trap #7 – Putting oneself in compromising situations.

Stopping by your opposite sex friend’s apartment when you know the two of you will be there alone. Inviting an opposite sex workmate to stop by your hotel room of visiting their room on a business trip.

Trap #8 – Fantasizing about sex with someone else.

Thoughts precede actions. Fantasizing what it would be like to have sex with another person allows the idea of infidelity to take root in one’s mind.

Trap #9 – Lunch and coffee breaks with the same person.

Having lunch or taking coffee breaks with the same opposite sex workmate every day paves the way for a workplace affair.

Trap #10 – Talking about sex.

Discussions of a sexual nature with someone of the opposite sex can arouse that person’s sexual interest in you, or make the other person think you have a sexual interest in them.

Trap #11 – Letting one’s marriage or relationship stagnate.

When the romance and passion fade in a marriage or relationship, both parties become vulnerable to an affair.

Trap #12- Window shopping on online dating sites.

Anyone who is married or in a committed relationship is asking for trouble by checking out online dating sites, just to see what they have to offer. Seeing what’s available can trick one into thinking that the grass is greener on the other side.

So if you think you’re in in one of the situational trap mentioned above, think twice or thrice. J You wouldn’t want to be in the scene where it is yourself that is being cheated upon right? Remember the law of KARMA. What comes around goes around.

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